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We strive so hard as a people to achieve our "dreams" and goals that we set for ourselves at to excel at home front/workplace/relationships so that we and our spouse,children,friends or extended family can get the best out of life.Nevertheless, the search for closure in this regard has proved illusive for many.That is why you see so many of us putting up a front ,acting like "everything is fine" when in actual fact "everything" is out of control" if not totally lost. Everyone go through some form of stress or destabilizing of the status quo in one's "normal" daily routine at the home front,work place, schools, communities or personal/individual relationships. But when you are overwhelmed to the extent that you cannot cope with your "normal" routine, to the extent that it interfairs negatively with your daily routine then something is not right.  This has  resulted to mental health problems which is undiagnosed or untreated in m...

Why should mechanisms to avoid incest be so widespread both in nature and across human societies? The answer is simple. The problem with having sex close with relatives is that there is an astonishingly high chance that your offspring will be born with a serious birth defect. The odds that a newborn child who is the product of brother-sister or father-daughter incest will suffer an early death, a severe birth defect or some mental deficiency approaches 50 percent. Incest is a taboo in most cultures in the world with very few exceptions. Incest of any form should be condemned by all because of the long lasting psychological and biological repercussions. Nearly everyone is repelled by the prospect of brother-sister sex/mother-son sex/or father- daughter sex (Jonathan Haidt) . I found this daughter –father consensual sexual relationship somewhat …..Well, you make something out of it after reading their story. An Oregon woman who had an illegal relationship with her biological father will ...

Action Plan #raisethealarm #SpeakUpnoW #TellSomeOnetoTell SomeOneNOW Do you know that victims of incest are found in all walks of life and from all socioeconomic circumstances? O yes!!!-abusers come in all shapes and sizes; including: father, grandfather, mother, brother, uncle, friend of the family, aunt, teacher -- unfortunately the list is endless. What is more "traumatizing"for me as a mental health coach/lifestyle management coach is the implementation of the law on sexual offences. In some countries the laws are either laxed / filled with loopholes or not implemented giving offenders freedom to continue abuse or walk away free instead of serving jail terms where they rightfully belong- in accordance with the laws of the land. Texas Law definitively caught up with  40 year old Danny Richard Minor who almost escaped punishment from 2002-,2009 before his case was reactivated after another of his victim spoke up in June, 2014.  Read his story: Texas Father Sentenced to Lif...

Action Plan #raisethealarm #STOPtheABUSEnoW Hundreds of perverts abuse children here every year and  most of such criminals are men trusted in the home. Many perpetrators of this horrible act of  incest escape punishment from the law because incest in regarded as a taboo in many cultures,therefore, family sexual abuse is shrouded in secrecy and social stigma. Hidden from relatives, communities, schools, and neighbors, incest is under-reported,under-recognized, and often goes unpunished, leaving child victims to suffer in silence and adult survivors to manifest myriad psychosocial problems (Daie, Witztum, & Eleff, 1989). I found the psychological torture the Hendersons’ twins had to go through most shocking.Their painful ordeal was brought to the world by The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2011. Until now this story was shrouded in all the secrecy that society can devise. Revulsion keeps people from discussing it; child abuse victims in court papers are sometimes listed with in...

#raisethealarm #STOPtheABUSEnoW " By age 16, one woman in five has had sexual contact with a relative, and one in three has had unwanted sexual contact with an adult”- (Dinwiddie and Pribor) and t he  impact of child psychiatric trauma is a very important factor in the development of serious disorders in children and in adults- Linda Smith, Psychotherapist, Department of Psychiatry, St. Louis University Medical Center. ‘ In the past 15 years, 50 percent of incest cases reported in Turkey were perpetrated by biological fathers, whereas other actors included uncles, brothers, grandfathers, reports Bianet, a Turkish press agency based in Istanbul. Between 2005 and 2010, over 100,000 victims were subjected to sexual assault, but 40 percent did not file an official complaint mainly due to fear. 22 year-old Turkish woman, Aysun Altay who committed suicide on Thursday July 30, 2015, after allegedly getting raped by her brother is one story too many. It shows that incest or any form of ...

#3 mins read  Positive mental health is important for all individuals at every stage of life. It is important to know the determinants of mental health if we want to thrive physically and emotionally. According to reports, over the course of your life, if you experience mental health problems, your thinking, mood, and behavior could be affected. Many factors contribute to mental health problems, including : Biological factors , such as genes or brain chemistry Life experiences, such as trauma or abuse Family history of mental health problems Your mental and emotional health has been and will continue to be shaped by your experiences. Early childhood experiences are especially significant. Genetic and biological factors can also play a role, but these too can be changed by experience.   Risk Factors That Can Compromise Mental and Emotional Health Poor connection or attachment to your primary caretaker early in life.   Feeling lonely, isolated, unsafe...

The primary focus of my blog has been the promotion, protection and restoration of mental health among individuals, communities and societies throughout the world because our mental well-being is fundamental to our collective and individual ability as humans to think, emote, interact with each other, earn a living and enjoy life. Mental well-being is also a vital concern for me as I have observed that it is generally absent, neglected or under-funded not just in Africa but the world at large. But the absence/neglected seems to be more pronounced in Africa due to factors like diseases, unhealthy lifestyles, social inequalities e.t.c. So henceforth, I will be sharing down-to-earth insights on how to you can improve your mental well being; prevention, care, recovery health from mental illness. Therefore, we must pay prompt attention to this fundamental component of good health (Click HERE ) for other components of health) because mental illness is hugely costly to the individual and to s...

2 mins read Nobody want to be a social outcast,alienated from the warmth derived from supportive relationships of well meaning friends family members which can contribute positively to  your mental or emotional and physical health. Social wellness has been described as our ability to maintain healthy, supportive relationships with other people (at family/group/societal level). And by improving your social health skills, you will be able to make choices that lead to positive interactions and enhance harmony in your personal relationships. Here are 10 Tips to Improve Your Social Health. 1.  Be friendly : If you want friends, be friendly. 2.  Listen:  Be a good listener so that you can develop a supportive relationship with someone who will also listen and talk to you regularly about your problems. 3.  Get out from behind your TV or computer screen.  Turn off the TV especially if someone is trying to talk to you. Screens...