19 Year Old Teenage Girl Gang Raped by 3 Trusted Friends in Lagos;A Litmus Test for the New Law on Gang Rape;
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Do you know that only 11-55% female adolescents sexual coersion and violence have been reported in Nigeria? Whatever happened to the others who are dying emotionally in silence? The culture of silence continues because of lack of courage or wrong perception by victims that they are at a more disadvantaged position due to the economic/Social/Political status of their attackers.
The residents of Iju area of Lagos,Nigeria were shocked to hear that 19-year-old Adenike (not real name), have been raped by three male friends she trusted most in her neighbourhood, – Habeeb Adisa (25), Kehinde Aderinoye (25) and Ilyas Ogundimu (27).
Adenike’s case highlights the increasing incidence of sexual offences in Nigeria, where majority of sexual offences go unreported due to;
Continue reading her full story.....
“Kehinde began to make advances to me. But I told him we were friends and did not want to be in a relationship with him. I have always rejected his advances.
“Later he would tell Habeeb and Ilyas to approach me to appeal on his behalf to accept his proposal, but I made them to understand that I could not go out with him. But we still talked and sat together in the neighbourhood as friends.”
Unknown to Adenike, the gentle disposition of her three friends was just a façade for the plan they had hatched on how to sexually assault her.
On Wednesday, June 17, 2015, an opportunity presented itself for the rapist friends to put their plan to work.
Adenike said, “In the morning of that day, around 9.30am, I went over Kehinde’s house like I usually did sometimes when I had nothing to do at home. I trusted them completely and usually went there to while away the time.
“Habeeb and Ilyas were there also. We were just talking when Habeeb suddenly came to me and picked me up. He threw me on the bed and I told him that I didn’t like that kind of play. I said, ‘If this is part of your playful habit I am not up for it.’
“But as he threw me on the bed, before I could stand up, he lay on me and pinned me down firmly. Kehinde quickly came over and started to remove my underwear. That was when I knew what they wanted to do. I struggled with them but they pinned me down and took turns to rape me.
“When I was screaming, one of them quickly went to the CD player, which was on at the time and turned on the music to maximum volume so that it would drown out my voice.”
When they finished, the three friends smiled in relish, it was learnt. They told their prey to pretend that what happened to her was a mere sexual encounter.
Bruised and battered, Adenike summoned the courage to approach someone she trusted in the neighbourhood and narrated what happened to her. She was immediately advised to go to the Iju Police Division and report the incident.
As soon as she reported, some landlords in the area rose in the men’s defence.
Adenike’s mother said that because the parents of the rapists are landlords in the area, they first threatened her that if she decided to make the issue a police case, she would lose.
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Do you know that only 11-55% female adolescents sexual coersion and violence have been reported in Nigeria? Whatever happened to the others who are dying emotionally in silence? The culture of silence continues because of lack of courage or wrong perception by victims that they are at a more disadvantaged position due to the economic/Social/Political status of their attackers.
However,19-year old hairstylist Adenike(not real name) is indeed a symbol of tremendous courage and resilience amid a culture of intimidation by reporting her three attackers. As its uncharacteristic of most sexual abuse victims,she summoned the courage to speak up "because she did want her four attackers to go free and do the same to someone else".
The residents of Iju area of Lagos,Nigeria were shocked to hear that 19-year-old Adenike (not real name), have been raped by three male friends she trusted most in her neighbourhood, – Habeeb Adisa (25), Kehinde Aderinoye (25) and Ilyas Ogundimu (27).
To Read MORE on the psychological impact To Read More on the Psychological impact of sexual abuse CLICK HERE;http://babystepspsychmag.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-psychological-impact-of-new-law-on.html
Narrating calmly but with anger and pain she said "not once did she suspect within the two years she knew them that they had such a heinous plan for her".
“Kehinde began to make advances to me. But I told him we were friends and did not want to be in a relationship with him. I have always rejected his advances.
“Later he would tell Habeeb and Ilyas to approach me to appeal on his behalf to accept his proposal, but I made them to understand that I could not go out with him. But we still talked and sat together in the neighbourhood as friends.”
Unknown to Adenike, the gentle disposition of her three friends was just a façade for the plan they had hatched on how to sexually assault her.
On Wednesday, June 17, 2015, an opportunity presented itself for the rapist friends to put their plan to work.
Adenike said, “In the morning of that day, around 9.30am, I went over Kehinde’s house like I usually did sometimes when I had nothing to do at home. I trusted them completely and usually went there to while away the time.
“Habeeb and Ilyas were there also. We were just talking when Habeeb suddenly came to me and picked me up. He threw me on the bed and I told him that I didn’t like that kind of play. I said, ‘If this is part of your playful habit I am not up for it.’
“But as he threw me on the bed, before I could stand up, he lay on me and pinned me down firmly. Kehinde quickly came over and started to remove my underwear. That was when I knew what they wanted to do. I struggled with them but they pinned me down and took turns to rape me.
“When I was screaming, one of them quickly went to the CD player, which was on at the time and turned on the music to maximum volume so that it would drown out my voice.”
When they finished, the three friends smiled in relish, it was learnt. They told their prey to pretend that what happened to her was a mere sexual encounter.
Adenike's Bravery Amid Threat and Intimidation by the Parents of Her three Attacker Who Were all Landlords!!!
She continued her story.....
“They told me to just forget what happened and keep it between the four of us. But I realised that if I was afraid of stigma and kept it to myself, they would walk free and even boast to their friends about what they did to me. They would surely do it to someone else,” Adenike said.
“They told me to just forget what happened and keep it between the four of us. But I realised that if I was afraid of stigma and kept it to myself, they would walk free and even boast to their friends about what they did to me. They would surely do it to someone else,” Adenike said.
Bruised and battered, Adenike summoned the courage to approach someone she trusted in the neighbourhood and narrated what happened to her. She was immediately advised to go to the Iju Police Division and report the incident.
As soon as she reported, some landlords in the area rose in the men’s defence.
Adenike’s mother said that because the parents of the rapists are landlords in the area, they first threatened her that if she decided to make the issue a police case, she would lose.
Arrest and Detention
On Thursday, after the police had arrested the suspects, (punch online) correspondent witnessed as families of the culprits and other residents of the area came out to the police station to beg Adenike’s mother.
On Friday, the spokesperson for the Lagos State Police Command, Mr. Kenneth Nwosu, told (punch online) correspondent that the suspects had been charged to court.(Narrative Culled from Punch Online)
Why is Adenike's Case a Litmus Test For The New Law on Sexual Offences in Nigeria?
Adenike is just one of the few reported cases of rape/gang rape(most cases of rape are unreported) barely 15 days after this law was passed(June 2,2015).
While this new law is plausible,the bone of contention here is its implementation. Major factors like ,"delays in trial, high legal fees,the weak judicial system, injustice, nepotism and a culture of impunity" can hinder the effective implementation.
There is a wide spread notion that Justice can be bought or sold in Nigeria depending on one's bargaining power and contacts in the corridors of power.
At the court, Adenike is just a "common" hairstylist up against the three landlords and their three rapist sons who were close friends that violated her. One begin to wonder;
There is a wide spread notion that Justice can be bought or sold in Nigeria depending on one's bargaining power and contacts in the corridors of power.
At the court, Adenike is just a "common" hairstylist up against the three landlords and their three rapist sons who were close friends that violated her. One begin to wonder;
- How many years does the new law on sexual offences prescribe for these four man gang rapists?
- Can justice for Adenike and other sexual abuse victims be speedily carried out by the Nigerian judicial system?- "justice delayed is justice denied"
- Can "eventual" justice from the court of law hasten the mental, emotional or social wellbeing of this henous crime against womanhood?
For answers; CLICK THIS LINK;http://babystepspsychmag.blogspot.com/2015/06/8-burning-questions-begging-for-answers.html
6 Steps to Effective Emotional Recovery If You were/are being Sexually Abused
- If You are a Victim of Sexual it is NOT your fault
- Talk to a "Trusted" Older Person NOW
- Break the Silence you are NOT ALONE
- Speak up with COURAGE NOW
- Do not allow ANY sexual offender to go free
- Visit a professional Therapist(Psychologist) for a systematic healing process
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